Is it ever possible to go out with the girls and not give the night up completely to drama and annoyances? A GNO can turn into a real downer when things don't go according to plan. It's OK to be spontaneous, but when planning ladies' night, be sure to follow a few rules that minimize drama and maximize fun. First, be cognizant of everyone's expectations and limitations. Will your group want to do the usual dinner-and-drinks evening or branch out and try something new, like an art festival or pottery painting session? If some of the group are on limited budgets, then maybe they'd feel more comfortable doing something economical, like a potluck at someone's house or attending a free concert. Avoid that icky moment after the server delivers the bill by lessening the pressure right off the bat. Be inclusive in who you invite - adopt a "the more, the merrier" point of view about girls' night.
Perhaps you want to introduce an old friend to your new work friends, or you know a new mom who'd like to join your usual group of moms. Be sure everyone knows what to expect - if you're going out with a group of childless women, then it's probably not OK to bring your own child along. Discuss the kid factor well in advance so that no one is unpleasantly surprised. Don't let the festive mood become depressing with an all-out bitch session. It's one thing to hash out a few guy problems - it's only natural for women to talk about their partners - but allowing the night to devolve into a man-bashing, tearful event is a major downer. Finally, a little common courtesy goes a long way. Focus on your friends, not flirting and hooking up, unless you've all discussed that as an objective before the night began. Also be sure to put your phone on vibrate to avoid distractions.