When Harry met Sally, they hated each other. Then they became best friends, lovers and finally spouses. If you think this silver screen relationship trajectory is one that you and your friend of the opposite sex should follow in real life, then here are a few tips to determine if you're better friends or lovers. First of all, examine the impact that a romantic relationship would have on your current platonic affection for each other. It's one thing to argue and forgive one another as friends. But if things just don't work out, your or he might take it hard and decide to end the friendship as well as the romantic relationship. Is that a gamble you're willing to take? Assess your feelings for your friend. Of course you feel affection and a sense of closeness with him. But can you envision going to bed with him? Holding hands walking down the street? Professing your love for each other?
If any of these scenarios make you cringe, then he's probably not going to be a good romantic partner. But if it sounds good to you, and you think he might have the same feelings, then look for signs that the desire to pursue more of a friendship are there. If you two can hardly go a day without texting or calling one another, or if you already know each other's families, then things look pretty promising. Consider what others see when they're around the two of you. Do friends make comments about what a great couple you'd make? Check your jealousy factor - if he makes comments about the people who you date, and you make comments about his dates, then there's probably something there. Before jumping into a relationship, why not ask him what he thinks? It's a whole lot less awkward just to have the conversation than having to explain why you slapped a big, wet kiss on his face.
