Loving or controlling? There's a very thin line between the two for some couples in which one partner is manipulative. It's fairly obvious when one partner is physically abusive in order to get what he or she wants. The use of violence is a powerful incentive for getting someone to do what you want. Emotional manipulation, however, is far more subtle. A man who loves you deeply, protects you fiercely and helps you make major life decisions can either be a boon or seriously controlling. You should help one another through life, but when it seems like he's helpless and weak without you, he may be using emotional blackmail to get you to stay. Other signs of a manipulative partner may include negative feelings toward you. We're talking doubt - second-guessing your decisions, trapping you with lots of questions and issues - or outright putting you down. One extreme example would be questioning your intelligence or even calling you stupid, but more subtle ways to control you might include criticism of the way you look, things you do and the friends with whom you spend time. Watch his behavior when you're not with him - does he call or text frequently? Demand to know where you're going and then show up there uninvited? A manipulative partner isn't very congratulatory about your achievements, big or small. He'll take credit for helping you get to where you are or discount a celebration-worthy event such as a promotion in your life. Think about the effect the relationship is having on you as a person - a good partner will enhance your life and personality. A controlling partner will suppress those things.