The depiction that men love sex can be fairly accurate - guys are portrayed as sex maniacs who will stop at nothing to get laid. The truth may be a little less exaggerated, but that stereotype makes it difficult for men with low libidos. So what should you do if your man doesn't want to have sex regularly? First, rule out any physiological problems or medications. Antidepressants may lift his spirits, but they also dampen sex drive. The same goes for cardiovascular disease, which can have an effect on libido. A drop in the hormone testosterone could be the culprit. But before jumping to conclusions, your man should have a doctor check him out thoroughly. From there, if there are no physical problems, take a look at your man's personal and professional life. Has he experienced any life-changing events, like the death of a close relative, the birth of a child, or changing or losing a job? If so, then therapy might help him work through the issues that are keeping his sex drive in low gear.
The next factor to examine is your relationship - and that doesn't necessarily mean that there's something wrong with you. Consider how you treat one another. Is there a lot of nagging in the relationship? Is sex a high priority for one of you but not the other? Mismatched desire can be to blame for a man's flagging libido. In a caring, loving relationship, low libido may just be another bump in the road that can be overcome with time and attention. Experts recommend following the old saying if you find that one of you has a flagging libido: Just do it. Of course, you want to respect the other partner's wishes, but introducing sex or just intimacy in the form of cuddling back into your relationship as much as possible can ignite desire once again.
