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Six Wonderful Reasons To Make Love Now

It's normal that after spending years as a couple, your sex life becomes a little stale. The urge to do it with your lover has reached its plateau. Sex has become a part of the chores. Those sizzling, sweltering, tantric, sex has somehow become the thing of the past.

Although there is no question about how you feel about each other, in fact, your feeling has even become more deep and secured, but somehow the sexual spark has died, and the burning flame of passion burned down. You love each other so much, but most of the time, you just want to read a book or watch the TV or have go to sleep, rather than have sexual intercourse to your partner.{relatedarticles}

Maybe all you need is a sexual catalyst or just a little reminder how great and beneficial sex if for your relationship and well-being.

Here are wonderful reasons to make love to your partner, when you feel like using the, "I have a headache" excuse.

* You promised to. Even though you didn't really specifically said, "to love, to honour and to make love three times a week," but when you promised to love, and to hold, for richer and for poorer, it goes without saying that sex would be a part of that promise. I hate to say it ladies, but yes, it is your obligation.{relatedarticles}

* When you do it, it lessens the stress and eases the pain. Orgasm triggers oxytocin and endorphins which has an amnesic and anaesthetic effects that can last for as long as five hours. So in that period of five hours, you'll forget about your pains, your worries, and your anxieties. So stop with your, "I have your headache" excuse, cause sexual intercourse actually relieves your headache.

* When you make love, it will put you in a good light. Every time you have sex and makes it as pleasant as possible. Your partner' brain will relate you into something that is wonderful and pleasant. This is the main reason why couples who never ceases to have wonderful sex still find their partner irresistibly adorable. So, if you want to be irresistible to your honey bunch, think twice before you refuse to have sexual intercourse to him.

* When you make love, it fires up the passion. It's the passion that keeps your relationship special and intimate, it's what separates you from being his best friend or confidant. It's not that there is something wrong as being his best bud, but it's nice to his all around girl. It makes your man loyal and faithful, because all he was looking for in a woman are all rolled into one in you.{relatedarticles}

* When you make love, it makes you lose weight. Have you been dying to get rid of that love handles? Or wanting to fit into that skinny jeans of yours? Then double time with sexual action, because you can lose a minimum of two hundred calories.

* When you make love, it makes your heart healthier. That's literally and figuratively speaking. But literally speaking, women who have sex more often have higher levels of estrogen that protect the heart against disease.

I can tell you a hundred more reasons to have sex tonight, but this is it for now. I hope these are enough reasons to jazz up your sex life.{relatedarticles}

About The Author

The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's ebook and learn how you can seduce any man that you fancy with so much ease and subtlety.

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Sex Survival Guide: What Every Woman Needs for Bedtime Play

art36163The contents of your nightstand drawer are important, so we'd like to pass on to you the items that every woman should have to enjoy the many pleasures of sex, whether you're married, dating, or single.

Your daily vibrator. Hitachi and Rabbit are popular brands for go-to vibrators, but the point is that you need one. Whatever your brand preference is, you need a reliable, get-her-done vibrator that you can count on in a pinch. This is the power-tool of your sex life, so if you haven't already got one in your bedroom drawer, research different brands and models before you choose.

A luxury vibrator. You probably have more than 1 purse. You have your everyday purse that you cram all your stuff in, the one you've been putting all your miles on. But you also have a stylish, designer purse that you can pull out when you really want to glam it up.

Vibrators are no different. A top-notch vibe from JimmyJane, a leader in luxury adult toys, can run as much as $175. But every woman needs to spoil herself every now and again. Every woman needs to spoil her vagina, too.

Lube that smells good. Some women don't normally use lube because they don't need it, but even if you're one of those women, you should have it around for special occasions - anal, marathon sex, sex with a guy you're not incredibly attracted to, and so on and so forth.

If you're going to use lube, it should be 2 things: nice-smelling, and intended for a vagina. Men will throw anything on there if you don't stop them: lotion, moisturizer, hair conditioner (yes, this happens, and to real people). So keep a bottle of lubricant on standby.

Be sure to investigate the ingredients, particularly if you have sensitive skin or any allergies, because that is not the type of reaction you want to have down there.

Something incredibly weird. That's right. Keep something raunchy in the bedroom. Think of this as a litmus test, the hovering needle on the freak meter, if you will.

It will cost less than $40 to add a ball gag, nipple clamps, and hand restraints to your collection, but the reaction on your partner's face when he (or she) realizes that you not only know how to use these naughty accoutrements, but also own them - priceless.

You'll keep them guessing, and you will be a sex goddess in the eyes of your partner's friends. And those friends will hear about it, and in graphic detail. Just acknowledge that reality right now.

If you don't have a headboard, a number of companies make a handy "under the bed" restraint system, and by all accounts, even if you just use it once, ever, you will have gotten your money's worth.

Contraceptives and STD protection. This is a real "duh" item on the list, but it must be mentioned. Whether you use condoms or birth control, whatever it is, just do it. If you're on birth control, you should still use condoms when you're having sex with a partner you're not in a monogamous relationship with. While you might not know what that person has, you know for a fact that you don't want it, so don't risk it.

Remember, condoms don't "spoil the mood" and if you're picky about sensation, there are some ultra-thin and lamb skin options. Keep a huge box of condoms stashed in a drawer no matter what but don't get a box so big that they are going to expire before you have time to use them. The only thing worse than not using protection is using it incorrectly, and believing that you're still safe.

Something for your clitoris. You need a little silver bullet for your clitoris, and many are cheap, basic, and shaped a lot like an egg. Many of them have an attached remote control to regulate pressure, vibration speed, and other features.

Something for your G-spot. The G-spot is not a myth; it is a real cluster of tissue in your vagina and you have access to it. Whether you have done that yet or not is a different story. If your eyes have already been opened to the exquisite splendor of G-spot stimulation, then you are probably nodding your head in agreement right now.

If you have not, then it's more than likely that the right toy will help you nail it (no pun intended). Unfortunately, sex toys aren't returnable and some can be quite expensive, so it will be difficult to "test" some out in order to experiment.

Batteries. A lot of things can get in the way of sexy time: stress, work, arguments, school, children, life. The last thing you need when you're getting down to business is to be blocked by a battery failure. Keep a box of them in your drawer, and be sure that you have the right size for each of your toys.

Lingerie. This is not just for the boys; it's important that you feel sexy for yourself, too. No, there's nothing wrong with flopping down in your sweats from a long day and getting into your own pants, or someone else's. Wear lingerie because it makes you feel good, confident, feminine, and sexy. Wear it alone, or wear it for your partner, or better yet, do both.

If you don't own any lingerie, there was never a better time to start your collection. It's best to start with something basic but whether you want a sheer black teddy or a pink laced bustier, make sure you try it on to ensure a good fit and comfort. In fairness, though, you'll probably only be in it for 5 to 10 minutes at a time.

A charged cell phone. Wait, what? In the event that anything should go awry - and we're not talking about failure to climax - you should have immediate access to a cell phone that you can use to call for help if you or your partner should be accidentally injured during sex. You never know. Stranger things have happened.

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Porn to Be Mild: Female-Friendly Adult Fare

Pornography is a topic that often inspires heated discussions. So many people have an opinion about it. Some think of it as a way to get in the mood for a sexual romp with their partner, while others simply dismiss it as smut.

But the one thing that pretty much everyone agrees on is that porn is an industry dominated by and made for men. But what about a woman's cravings? Does female-friendly adult fare even exist?


The answer is actually quite complicated. That's because women are aroused differently than men. Female desire is complex. Physiological and subjective forces are at work, sometimes even in opposition to each other. Emotional closeness can also stimulate sexual attraction, which adds a new layer to finding porn that satisfies a woman's carnal needs.

But even though the majority of porn is geared to the sexual urges of men, there are a growing number of women who want to watch this kind of entertainment.

In fact, Nielsen/NetRatings reveals that one out of every three porn watchers on the Internet is female. Despite the scarce amount of pornography that's available to satisfy a woman's sexual desires, there is an audience just waiting to be pleased.

Porn Made for Women, by Women

A new era of porn is making its way into the online market and beyond. It features a young man named James Deen, who is making women swoon all over the world. This porn star, who has already appeared in a string of popular adult films, is not your typical X-rated movie king.


For one thing, he has a geeky, boy-next-door appearance that you don't often find in pornography. But he's appealing to a female audience that's drawn to his normal good looks and down-home charm.

Deen's undeniable fan base shows that even though female sexuality is hard to pinpoint, there is a definite attraction to his nice-guy persona and the apparent emotional connection he shows on screen.

It could be argued that the lack of porn stars more akin to Deen reveals a disconnect between the male honchos who control porn and the women who want erotic stories geared to them. These powerful porn makers seem to think women are turned on by big, beefy guys, when they are really more aroused by a more understated male presence in adult movies.

Pamela Peaks, the producer who discovered Deen and made him into a household name in the porn world, touched on a gold mine. Her female-friendly films have given women sexual entertainment that isn't common in this male-dominated industry.


Thanks in part to Peaks, now more than ever, there is a new wave of feminist erotica that gives porn a whole other twist. The old clichés of porn are being cast aside for a fresh vision of sex in more artistic portrayals that cater to a female perspective.

Erotica for Women

In general, women find the less-is-more line of thinking more stimulating than a heavy-handed, often hardcore approach when it comes to sexual arousal. Although female sexuality still has its mysterious side, graphic scenes of men having no-holds-barred sexual intercourse with women might not be as gratifying to watch as the suggestion of this inevitable encounter.

So sexy stories, erotic poetry and provocative music may be just the trick to make women feel that delicious, sexual excitement.

However, because women are turned on in a multitude of ways, an understated approach to arousal might not be enough for some individuals. Luckily, there are a number of Web sites that cater to female desires, which you may not have ever heard of until now.

{relatedarticles} is one such site that could get you in the mood without showing a single naked body part. The idea behind it is to show people from the neck up who are masturbating themselves to the ultimate orgasm. These are videos of real men and women from around the world, all shot in the same way. takes female-friendly fare to a whole other place. It's basically a forum for women to post anonymous, nude photos of themselves. No matter what their reason for sharing, the site provides a wide variety of women of all shapes, sizes, ethnicities and ages.

If you're looking for photographs that are more erotic in a movie-like style, then LeChagrin may be the site for you. It's photos with a classy feel that just might make you feel that tingle of sexual interest yourself. also offers some erotic resources you can check out anytime. Not only does it have an intriguing guide to direct interested women to good porn, but it also provides its own sex products.


Every Woman Is Different

The most fascinating aspect of female sexuality is that there is no one size fits all. Every woman has different sexual desires, which means that not all styles of porn will elicit the same reaction.

Some women are turned on by passionate kissing or gay sex or an emotional sexcapade with a wholesome-looking guy who could live next door. It all depends on the woman and what kind of sexual portrayal sets off her hot buttons. A woman's arousal is highly subjective. It's rare that it fits into the generic mold that's peddled for the overall consumer in the mainstream market.

The fact that female-friendly adult fare can't fit into a nice, neat category is both an attractive challenge and extremely frustrating at the same time. However, its diversity means there's a great potential to make and sell a wide variety of female-driven porn throughout the world.


This is a virtually untapped reservoir that could translate into millions, even billions, of dollars while also giving women a sexual outlet that may just lead to an ecstasy that's never been experienced before.

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