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How to Choose the Best Condom for You

Contrary to popular belief, safe sex does not equal lame sex. In fact, having good sexual health habits keeps sex fun. No one wants to deal with the discomfort that accompanies certain STDs - burning urination is definitely not fun, and we all know about the consequences of some of the more serious STDs.

To lessen your chance of catching a nasty STD, it is essential to pick condoms that are effective and even add an element of fun to your sex life, in case you need yet one more reason to cover up. After all, who doesn't want to get the most bang for their buck?

Selecting Your Condom

When it comes to condoms, size definitely matters. Ignore that macho voice in your head that says bigger is better. If you get a condom that is too large, it will leave too much space at the tip or the base to fit properly. Not only will this leave your condom vulnerable to slippage, but it will also make you look smaller relative to the size of your condom.


However, if your condom is too small, it may break during sex. Finding the right fit is an important part of the selection process. If you are not sure about the proper size, read the packaging to find out what works for your package. There are often charts or guides on the back of a condom box that will help you find the perfect fit.

There is a vast selection of textures, including ribbed, extra thin, and condoms with exotic patterns. These are marketed as pleasure enhancers, but in practice, it all comes down to preference: some men like the added sensation, while others find it distracting. The same goes for women. Before you undress, address this issue so you avoid any distraction during the main attraction.

Pre-lubricated condoms also figure into the mix. These condoms cost more than your standard protection, but they may add a new layer of excitement to your sex life. Pre-lubricated condoms can also be big timesavers in the bedroom. Between getting the condom on and lubing up, you can waste precious time. With pre-lubricated condoms you elimiate one step and get down to getting down faster.


Flavored condoms are popular for oral play. It is vital to realize that no matter what flavor, material or brand you use, your partner is still taking a trip down to your nether regions, and that means you still need to wash up; flavor should be an enhancement, not a cover-up for your funky junk.

Spermicidal condoms are great for people who want an added layer of protection to ensure that they don't make any babies. Because spermicidal condoms taste bad, make sure that you keep a few flavored condoms on hand. Use the flavored condoms to start, then switch to a spermicidal condom when things start to heat up.

Condom Material Matters

Another condom selection issue is the material. This means that you need to know in advance about any allergies. Some women and men have allergic reactions to latex or rubber. If you notice inflammation issues during sex with a certain material, avoid that material when you shop for condoms in the future.

When it comes to feeling the most sensation during sex while still playing it safe, microsheer is the ideal material. It is thinner than other materials, yet more resistant to tearing than anything else currently on the market. It also transmits body heat from you to your partner, so you might even forget it is on. Microsheer costs more than latex or rubber, but think of it as an investment; the cost of a doctor visit or emergency contraceptives is higher than the cost of condoms, after all.


Why Condom Use Is Important

Unwanted pregnancies are tough. So are sexually transmitted infections. When you hear friends complain about how condoms ruin the experience, bear in mind that some extra padding between you and your partner feels better than the panic of having an unwanted pregnancy or disease on your hands.

Aside from the pain and irritation high-risk sex can lead to, there is also the limitation on your pool of potential partners. Medical experts are required to respect your privacy, but any time you infect a partner, word gets around.

When this happens, the idea that condoms make sex less enjoyable becomes moot. You cannot have worse sex if you are having no sex at all. The sheer range of condom selection and the fact that you can pick condoms that will actually enhance your sex life should help you to get over this mental hump so that you can hump safely.

Condoms are Important for Men and Women

Condom selection is a specific aspect of sexual health that every sexually active person must consider. For women who do not want children, birth control is a key component of their health care, and one that is addressed during gynecologist visits. However, birth control and the prevention of sexually transmitted infections are two entirely separate things. This means women on birth control should always carry condoms, just to be safe.

For men, condom selection plays a bigger role in their sexual health because there are fewer prescriptions and surgical options. Vasectomies are costly, fairly permanent and can be risky for young men, plus they do not address the risk of catching a sexually transmitted infection.


Condoms will address both issues, and they will be more affordable and practical while you are still playing the field, or even when you settle down but are still not ready for children just yet.

Overall, the facts above mean that no matter your gender, what type of sex you plan on having, or how often you plan to have sex, it is essential to your sexual health that your condom selection is smart and that you practice safe sex with every partner. If you have specific questions about condom selection, practicing safe sex or other sexual health issues, contact a gynecologist or urologist.

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Slippery When Wet: Water Play for Partners

Water is sensual. It feels good against your skin, you're half or fully naked, and there's no need for lubrication. What more could you ask for?

If you have a difficult time thinking of something new, don't worry. We have some of the best sex moves to make in water. And since the summer is approaching, you will most likely be in the water more often, which means you might be curious about these new ways to play with your partner.{relatedarticles}

Start with Foreplay

When you start having water fun, just tease each other. This is water foreplay. Grab one another, rub up against each other, and slide in between one another without getting too far into it. You can also sit on your man, grab him, and even go underwater for some fun without feeling as though you are completely exposed.

You can also play a bit of peek-a-boo, as you both show off what you got, but hide under water or behind the small piece of clothing you're wearing.

The more time you participate in water foreplay, the more intense your feelings will become, and the more ready you'll be to get it on.{relatedarticles}

Get Ready for Positioning

As you both get excited from the foreplay, you can either keep your bathing suits on or take turns taking each other's off. That's the great thing about bathing suits, it doesn't take much to get them out of the way, and it doesn't take long to get them off.

Be careful if you are taking the bathing suits off. Make sure you place them somewhere you can get to them afterwards. You don't want to be caught having to walk back to your room naked, if they get washed away somehow.

Once you are to this point, you're ready to get down to business. Try out some of these moves for sex fun in water.

If you are in a hot tub, or another place where your man can sit down, climb on top of him to sit. With the buoyancy of the water, you can easily do squats on him. Your hands can be on his nipples or wrapped up in his hair.

If you are in a shallow depth of water, see if he is able to lay down resting his forearms on the bottom. Face away from his face and ride him that way. Again, the buoyancy of the water makes doing the squats much easier.{relatedarticles}

If the water is shallow, lay on your back. Put one leg up, and have him enter in closely. One of his hands will hold your leg up, the other can be used on your clitoris.

If you are able to rest your head on the edge of the pool, or hot tub, have him bring each of your legs around his waist, so he can do you that way.

Grab onto a raft and have him come in from behind you. He can move your legs up or down to create a different sensation for both of you.

Have him sit on an inner tube and sit on him while he is on it. Lean back and he can thrust that way. You can also place your legs on his shoulders.

If you have a raft that's large enough, spoon each other and have him enter you. The slow, rocking motions the raft and you both make will surely make you both feel loved by one other.{relatedarticles}

Sit down on one of the steps that go into the pool. Have him lay into you with his feet on the bottom of the pool. Then he can use his waist to move back and forth.

Have him stand on the last rung of the ladder going into the pool. Come up in front of you and face away from him with your feet on the second to last rung. You'll be in front of him and he enters from behind.

You have to love the buoyancy of water. Just jump on him so he is holding you at his waist. He can hold you with his hands on your behind, and move you back and forth.

Water Fun in the Shower

The pool, hot tub, and other bodies of water aren't the only places you can have sex fun. You can also have it in the shower. Try these moves out.

Position yourself right underneath the showerhead. Have him tilt his back a little and you bend down just a little to make it easier for him to enter.{relatedarticles}

Have him sit in the bathtub with the shower pouring down on him. Straddle him from above and let the shower and your movement do the rest.

Have him sit on the edge of the bathtub. Back up to him so that you are almost sitting on him. Your thighs will burn after you guys are done, but it's worth it.

Don't forget that if you have a bathtub, rather than just a standalone shower, you can do many of the hot tub, pool, and other bodies of water moves in it. Space may make things difficult, but get creative, and make them work the best you can.

Start Having More Sex with More Fun

Sex can get boring if you have been with the same person for a while. Getting in the mood in water, and using it to try out some new water sex tricks can really bring the excitement back into your sex life.

With all of these ideas for water sex play, you have even more reasons to get out there and hit the pool, hot tub, lake, or just the shower. Just be careful while you are outside; getting caught in the act can be an embarrassing situation.

If it does happen though, at least you can hide under the water. Well, that is until you have to come up for air. Then you'll have to figure something out, but that's on you. Have fun!

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5 Things He Wants To See You In ... And Out Of

As women, we all know what makes us feel sexy and most of it involves a certain level of comfort. Unfortunately, what we like and what makes us feel sexy might not always mesh with what our men want to see us in and what they want to see us get out of either. While we might think that a nice black dress will do the trick to keep them foaming at the mouth, the men in our lives might beg to differ.

Even if something that you have worn for ages has seemed to do the trick in the past, it might be time for a change to keep things interesting. Here are the top 5 things that he likely wants to see you in, then out of (in no particular order).

1. Sexy Lingerie

It sounds cliché, but there is a reason why places like Victoria's Secret exist. Luckily, this is not your mother's lingerie. There are so many different options that you can choose from when picking out lingerie and it no longer has to be uncomfortable. You can opt for the simple yet sexy, or you can go for something with all of the kinky bells and whistles.


When it comes to taking off your sexy lingerie, you can do a strip tease or have him take it off for you one piece at a time. The bottom line: he wants to see you in something that offers enough of a tease that you are hiding something but not too much that you don't allow him to use his imagination. It all depends on what your man likes, though, so see if you can get it out of him without him knowing before you empty the racks of your nearest lingerie shop.

2. A Thong

As much as many women hate to wear thongs, men simply love them. They love the idea of not being able to see everything but being able to see enough to keep their interest and imagine what might be underneath. If you were uncomfortable the last time you tried on a thong, try one on again.

There have been some pretty cool advancements in this type of underwear, meaning that in some cases, you might not even feel like you are wearing anything. This can eliminate underwear lines and keep your man guessing what you are wearing under your clothes. When it comes to taking them off, he can use his hands or his teeth.


3. A Low-Cut Dress

Sure, there are leg men and butt men out there. But most men adore breasts, and they like to see at least some partial cleavage in anything that you wear. If you have any size to your breasts, then you can perk them up with a nice-fitting push-up bra and then wear a low-cut dress over it for a sexy look. If you are flat-chested or have more of an A cup, then you can go even lower with the cut of the dress.

Yes, it leaves less to the imagination, but it also provides a stunning and daring look that can leave your man wanting even more. With a low-cut dress, there is more than one way that you can get out of it, making it easy for him and for you when the time comes.

4. High Heels

This is more along the lines of those spiky high heels that you see in the movies, not something that you would necessarily wear to work. These high heels typically are black and almost always exude a sexy quality that cannot be found with any other type of shoe. Six-inch would be best but go higher if you can handle it. Practice walking around the house in your heels first so you don't stumble.

Whether you are fully dressed and are getting ready for a night on the town or if you are playing dress-up at home with your man, you should find a sexy pair of heels that you can slip on quickly when the time calls for it. When it comes to the height of your high heels, the higher the better. Even if you have trouble walking in them, don't worry. You likely won't be wearing them for very long anyway.

5. Makeup

The idea of this is a little less sexy, for sure, but the makeup that you wear on your face is just as important as what you wear on your body. It can make your man more turned on when he sees you wearing some daring eyeliner or some hot pink lipstick. You can go as crazy as you want here - if you have some time to yourselves and are in for an adventurous night, then you can pull out all the stops when it comes to your makeup.


Check what is in your arsenal for some ideas right off the bat and add to it if you find that your makeup is less sexy than you want it to be. Just like he will love to see you in it, your man will also love to see you out of your makeup.

Many men today love a more natural look - or even women who wear minimal makeup or makeup that goes unnoticed by the naked eye. He will see your beauty shine through both with your makeup and without it.

These are just 5 of the many, many things that he would love to see you in - and out of. If you use your imagination, you likely can come up with dozens more. You know your man more than most people do, so what you wear entirely depends on the types of things he likes.


If you know him well, then you know what he wants and how to get him in the mood with what you wear. Even if you don't, you still can experiment with some of the things on this list to see where you land. You never know, you might discover new things about yourself and your man that can add some serious spice to your sex life.

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