By Rori Raye, Author of best-selling eBook Have The Relationship You Want and free newsletter

If you think you're just being "friendly" by sending him a flirty text or baking him a birthday cake, you could be getting in the way of the kind of courtship you desire. 

When we find ourselves falling for a man, it's normal to start feeling that if we don't show enough interest in him he might get the wrong message and drift away. We want to make sure he knows we like him. So we might do things like: 

1. Calling him because you heard or read about something interesting, or because you knew there was a great band playing somewhere, or someone told you about some great event that you want to invite him to. 

2. Calling to ask why he hasn't called you. 

3. E-mailing him, texting him, Facebooking him, sending him a cute card, dropping by his house, or in any way attempting to initiate some kind of contact.