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Keep things calm and rational and mind your accusations. Baseless ones will simply add fuel to the fire. A related concept, competition, might be in play, if you feel resentment about your partner's achievements. Unless he or she is playing a game of one-upsmanship (which shouldn't be the case), it's OK to celebrate his or her achievements. You're on the same team, after all. And speaking of which, condescension and being excessively critical of your mate are sure relationship killers. No one likes being talked down to or not being treated as an equal. Similarly, there should be a somewhat equal division in the balance of power and decision-making in the relationship – it's crucial that no one is giving or taking more than the other. If your mate can't depend on you, then it will prove to be relationship poison. When a person can't depend on his or her partner, he or she inevitably will find someone else in whom to place trust. Finally, the most obvious relationship killer – infidelity. Any form of betrayal can poison a relationship, but cheating – physical and emotional – may be the most difficult form to surmount. - << Prev
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