A quiet night in might be the perfect date for one spouse, while dancing the night away with a few cocktails at a nightclub might be perfect for the other. This discrepancy can lead to a lack of compatibility, one of the leading causes of divorce. Getting back on the same page with your spouse when it comes to drinking is a good start. If you're the heavier drinker, then try limiting your intake to just wine at home on certain nights. Or cut down your nights out in favor of staying in with your spouse. Perhaps you can cut liquor from the shopping list and only drink cocktails when you go out to dinner. Schedule more time together, regardless of whether or not it involves drinking, and if you feel your drinking is a problem, get help.