Whether you've been out with a new guy a few times or just once, when things start getting hot and heavy in the bedroom, there are a few ways to kill the mood - fast. Say the wrong thing, and the intimacy can come to a shrieking halt. So here are a few things to put on your no-no list when you're making pillow talk with a hookup partner. It's the punchline in a lot of romantic comedies, but it really does happen in real life. We're talking using the wrong name for your partner. It's OK to whisper or even yell, "Yes, yes, Steve!" But it's not OK to say when your current partner's name is Craig. Worrying aloud about your boyfriend or husband finding out about the dalliance is a sure mood killer, as is wondering aloud whether or not you're current on your birth control.
Critiquing his performance is a major no-no, particularly when you compare it to the performance of a previous partner. Certainly you want to speak up if what he's doing isn't OK with you or is painful, but minor concerns like his breath, manner of kissing or other trivial issue shouldn't be brought up, particularly if it's a casual hookup and things aren't likely to lead to a relationship. Finally, one of the worst things to say during a hookup is anything that makes you look insecure. If you think you're unsatisfying for your partner, then your actions can show it. Self-confidence is sexy and when you question his motives - saying things like, "You're probably thinking of someone else," then it's a major turnoff. The same goes for constantly seeking reassurance. It's one thing to ask him his preferences and how he likes certain things you're doing; it's entirely another to ask, "Am I doing this right?" Read his body language if you're not sure. If he seems to be enjoying what you're doing, then you're doing it just fine.
