If you've been with that special someone for quite a while and you're ready to take the next step, then it may make sense to cohabitate. But before you pack a single box, be sure that it's the right move for your relationship - and for each of you. First, have the dreaded "where is this relationship going?" conversation. It's necessary for each of you to outline your intentions before moving in together. It's true that many couples move in together with the intention of marrying in the future - in fact, up to 75 percent of couples who cohabitate intend to get hitched, and 55 percent of married couples live together first. But living together doesn't necessarily mean that you or your partner wants to get hitched. So discuss the relationship's direction before moving in. Next, you'll want to figure out why you want to move in with your partner - examine your motives.
It's normal to feel a bit scared, but if you're feeling pressured to go to the next level, then take a step back. And if you just don't think the relationship will go any further, then don't move in together. Consider whether the compromise of living together and changing some of your habits is OK with each of you. If you anticipate things settling down, be sure your mate is ready to cut down on all those nights out with the boys. Your lifestyles should mesh, not clash. Moving in together might make sense financially - after all, if you're already staying over one another's houses and paying rent on two places, it is more economical. But if you or your mate have serious financial problems, then moving in and combining resources can be a bone of contention. If one partner makes significantly more money than the other or if one is consistently late paying rent, then these are serious factors to consider. Cover all your bases before you give the moving company a call.
