Whether it's been a few minutes, a few months or even a few years, it can be pretty shocking if you're a woman who's dated a man who comes out as gay after the relationship ends. Then again, maybe it didn't come as much of a surprise. Either way, you may have trouble dealing with the announcement that he's playing for the other team now. It may be difficult to forgive a man who lied to you – and it's OK to be angry. We'd all be angry if someone close to us was dishonest, and it may be tough to put those feelings aside. But try to see it from his point of view. Neither you nor any other woman he has ever dated is to blame for his realization. It's likely he's been struggling with his sexual orientation for quite some time, if not his entire life.