Making a Second Marriage Work

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It seems like logic would dictate that a divorcee would learn from his or her mistakes and not make them the second time around, right? Not necessarily. Second marriages seem to be an opportunity to right the wrongs that happened the first time around, but they don't always play out that way. So if you're committed to making this one stick, then there are a few things you should know before getting married again. First, consider the baggage you bring to the marriage in the form of your ex and the kids you share. When one partner tries to manage that part of the other partner's life, it may cause some resentment. For example, partners need to be on the same page about child-rearing before conflicts with the stepchildren arise. Presenting a united front about all things regarding child care is important to avoid feelings of resentment. Disagreeing about the ex-spouse can cause conflict in a second marriage as well. Court-ordered alimony and child support payments can be an issue for couples who marry again, whether it's giving too much money to the other spouse or the ex-spouse feeling as though the second spouse doesn't "deserve" money.