When it's OK to Reconcile with Your Ex
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them honestly:
- How would reconciling affect the nature of the relationship?
- Would anything change?
- What made you unhappy when you were together?
- Who or what was at fault?
- What was good about the relationship?
- Did the breakup happen because of a single issue (for example, infidelity)?
- Was it something trivial (he didn't call when he said he would)?
- Was it a build-up of things that finally hit a boiling point?
When analyzing the pre-breakup relationship, it can be helpful to write down a pros and cons list. Be brutally honest with yourself. Small self-deceptions will only harm you in the long run so save yourself some heartache.