Handling Competitive Moms

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Don't Take It Out On the Child

If you are dealing with a competitive mom, don't take it out on her child. Most likely, if her child is aware of her behavior, the child probably feels embarrassed but may be too afraid to say so. Try to imagine the pressure that her child must go through on a daily basis to live up to her standards.

Even if the child seems to act as bratty as the mom does, try to understand that the child probably doesn't know any different. If they are raised in a competitive environment, it is all they really know.

Competitive Moms Love Their Children

Competitive moms truly do love their children. It is just that they have a difficult time showing it in a healthy way. Pressuring children and making them feel that they have a leg up on the world probably has the best intentions. It's just that the competitive mom is going about it the wrong way. She more than likely feels very insecure about her role as a mother and this is just how she copes with it.

Of course, every mom feels that her children are special. There is nothing wrong with that. But when it goes to unhealthy extremes, it becomes a problem. For some moms, competition just seems to run through their veins.

We All Have Inadequacies

Remember that we all have inadequacies as moms. It's a difficult role to fulfill, so if we can sympathize with the competitive mom we can better handle her. Instead of taking it personally or as an affront against our own children, we can look at it is as a way to examine our own hearts and uncover what our own inadequacies are. Hers may be just more out there for the world to see.