Handling Infertility: Your Own, Your Friends
Don't make assumptions about her feelings or express excessive optimism - "You must be so depressed!" or "I just KNOW this IVF cycle will work!" - because you don't have any guarantees about her feelings or outcomes.
Another sticky situation might arise when friends of childbearing age get pregnant and are ready to break the news to a friend struggling with her fertility. If you're the pregnant one, then you don't want to make an infertile friend feel left out by delaying the news and telling everyone but her. But consider her feelings when you do break the news - you may want to do it privately, rather than in a large group, so that she can express her emotions honestly. What's important - regardless of which side of the infertility issue you lie - is to be a good friend.