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It does seem counter-intuitive to allow someone the room that they require in order to get them back. It boils down to a psychological way of thinking called The Scarcity Theory. Simply speaking, the more you prevent someone access to something, the more that they want it. It's akin to the Law of Supply and Demand...the rarer something is, the more it is worth to someone.
If something is in abundance, not a lot of value is linked to it. So if you're in surplus to your partner, always begging him or her to take you back, it's not likely that he or she will find it attractive, and your marriage will be lost for good.{relatedarticles}
Rather than behaving badly, ranting and raving to your partner to take you back, try behaving like a mature adult. It will probably come as a pleasurable surprise to your ex and go a long way to stopping the divorce. Calmly accept that your marriage has experienced some tough times recently, and you're hurt, but you'd really like to give your relationship a second chance. Remember... be relaxed and truthful.
