On a regular basis, there's probably only one set of genitalia you see on a regular basis - your own (and maybe your partner's, if you have one). Other than that, you might see privates depicted in art or pornography. If you do, then you might notice a vast difference in the appearance of yours and the appearance of those in the media. For women who have had children or don't groom themselves based on that "standard," it can be worrisome when their privates don't live up to what's deemed "attractive." There are even Web sites that contain lots of pictures and information that can help you decide whether or not your parts are "normal." The reality is, there isn't such a thing as normal-looking genitals. Each person's looks different based on grooming habits, age, whether or not she has given birth and other factors. It's unrealistic to think that as we age, our genitalia will look exactly as it did when we were children. The truth is that if you see a hairless vulva (the outside, visible parts) on an adult woman without much else visible besides the large, outside lips, then it's a safe bet that it's been altered to look that way by being waxed and even through surgical procedures. Labiaplasty, in which a plastic surgeon trims the inner lips and other skin folds, is on the rise.