Spouseless and the Holidays
6. There will be times you are going to want to cry, and it's perfectly OK to let it out. And then there are going to be times when you'll want to cry and it's not OK. You'll need to postpone it. That said, crying in front of people should not be something frowned upon. However, in a business situation your strategy should be this: Give yourself permission to cry later. Crying is a natural, organic part of the grieving process. If you don't allow yourself to cry, you're suppressing the release of emotion and pain from your body. Whether happy or sad, crying is a healthy and beneficial part of the experience of life.
7. Be grateful in spite of your loss. Thank the universe that you were brought together and that you shared a life, no matter how long or short it may have been. I believe that the energy one puts out into the world comes back to us. So don't waste precious time being angry at the world or at others. Gratitude helps us to heal faster.
8. You may again share a future holiday with someone special -- but don't be in a hurry for that. In time, you may find that you are ready for a new relationship. When you stop comparing your lost love to your new prospect, only then will you know you are ready. One other clue that your new relationship is a good one: You will be able to talk freely about your lost love. Your next true love will be different, but so will you. You will love again, and in time what was once painful will be empowering.