Begin to heal your wounds by recognizing the fact that the person speaking them was probably speaking from their own pain and directing it outwardly at you and probably others as well.

Practice physically releasing the pain inside of you by practicing mindful breathing: On your inhale, identify the phrase or the feeling that may have hurt you, then imagine releasing the words and the pain with each deep exhale. The inhale serves to gather up the old vestiges of the pain while the exhale allows you to visualize it physically leaving your body.{relatedarticles}

Develop affirmations that refute the words that were aimed at you such as: "I am productive and confident," "I am successful," "I am loved" and "I am worthy." Write your affirmations down and keep them close to you; in your pocket, at your desk or on your nightstand. Often just touching the piece of paper in your pocket will serve as a reminder, but seeing them, and reading them aloud provides additional benefit when you feel that old feeling or behavior creeping back.